Change is a funny thing. One day you wake up simply aware that something about you is different. It may be subtle, but you know that something has deeply shifted. You are at home with; comfortable with what you are feeling and experiencing, but as soon as you share your perception with loved ones or people who know you well...the budding changes gained may not survive the staying power of old patterns. This morning in Mark Nepo' Book of Awakening, I was inspired by this reading:
We create patterns that others depend on, and then the last thing we ever imagined happens: we grow and change, and then to stay vital we must break the patterns we created... We know we are close to this when we hear someone say, "You are not yourself," or " That was out of character for you." What is difficult at this point is to resist either complying with how others see us or with holding who we really are. The challenge, which I don't do well but stay committed to, is to say to those we love, "I am more that I have shown you and more than you are willing to see. Let's work our love and know each other more fully."
Day in day out, I see clients who are seeking to embrace change within, but are challenged by the dynamics with those they love. I am very familiar with this journey, I think we all are.
What if you completely shifted perspective? Change has nothing to do with anyone in your life. In fact, you can change the energy of chaos or sadness, simply by being grateful for those who are your catalysts. Begin to look at the dynamics between your Self and Others as your life learning stage/classroom.
Be the actor~ unmasked. If you are all players in this Home Theatre, choose to be the protagonist who will walk into the sunset, wiser, stronger and better for it.
The hero in this story knows his/her truth. It's all about You. And when you accept the change, no one can take that from you. Everyday, every relationship dynamic is a new opportunity to be more heart created, to choose to create a more loving space for yourself. When this sinks into the core of yourself, it is a gift. A heart centered change that heals you and ultimately impacts the lives of those you love as well. It is a journey, for all of us!